Domestic Violence Speaker / Domestic Violence Show?
"It Seems Incredible That You Can Bring About
Domestic Violence Awareness
And Be Enlightened
And Be Entertained Too"
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"Here is what I have to say:
In 1999, I attended an event at the YWCA in High Point, NC. I had no idea that I was witnessing the first of what would become a national phenomenon! Wambui Bahati presented, “I Am Domestic Violence”. It was as inspiring, life-changing, thought-provoking, and relevant then as it is now . . .[Read More]
Wambui, the Domestic Violence Speaker says:
Unfortunately, domestic violence is very much alive and well -- and thriving. According to the National Victims Center, one woman is raped every minute, and 30% of all women murdered in this country are murdered by their boyfriends or husbands.
Domestic violence is a particularly grim topic and a vicious crime, because it involves pain and suffering (even loss of life) inflicted by a friend, someone who claims to care, or a so-called loved one.
Many people ask, "Why don't the victims just leave? Why do they stay?"
The Abuse We Don't See
Usually by the time the physical abuse starts in a relationship, the emotional and psychological abuse has already destroyed all the dignity and self-esteem of the victim.
Victims feel ashamed and are embarrassed to tell others about their situations. They are fearful of leaving because of threats from their abusers and financial dependence.
In many instances, victims are manipulated to believe they deserve this treatment and it is somehow their fault. Abusers know exactly what to say and do to keep the abused in emotional captivity.
Victimizing the Victim
Victims view leaving as being more painful than staying, because of the imagined and real repercussions either from the perpetrator or from society at large.
Many people in the world still don't understand domestic violence. Therefore, they victimize the victim further by blaming the victim or making comments like: "You should have just left." "I would never be so stupid as to stay in an abusive relationship." "That would never happen to me."
People make jokes in our society about men "getting over" or using women -- men who are " Players." Even today, there are still groups of people who have the mindset that women are not equal to men and are just sexual objects.
Domestic violence is about control -- being mentally controlled by a significant other. That is the reason why, after leaving an abusive relationship, a victim will go back to her abuser an average of four times before she decides she has the mental strength to leave for good.
I believe the remedy for domestic violence lies in building a society in which we honor ourselves. When we honor ourselves, it is difficult to dishonor someone else or to be dishonored. Yeah, easier said than done.
We can start with our children and try to stop domestic violence by educating the new generations. [Read entire article here.]
[Excerpts]Wambui's keynote address highlighted Prince Edward Collegiate Institute’s first domestic violence symposium. Entitled, ‘WAIT – What Am I Thinking?’ - May 12th 2011
I thought Wambui Bahati's performance was incredible. She did an amazing job distinguishing between characters and keeping the performance humorous yet serious at the same time. She could make a character funny while still sending a serious message to her viewers . . .
I thought the performance was excellent. She got everybody into it from the beginning by starting in the audience and she keep everybody's attention . . .
Wambui Performs "I Am Domestic Violence" - Photo courtesy of Marc Golub Photography
I really enjoyed Wambui Bahati's performance. She had a very live approach in capturing the audience's attention. I liked how she played several character skits to show the different roles of domestic violence. I learned that Domestic Violence is everywhere and that if affects all walks of life . . .
The message I heard from her was that it is never too late to start living your life. She was a victim of domestic violence and finally broke free, had mental illnesses and was dealing with insecurities inside of herself. However, none of that got her down. She changed her name and started her life over basically and discovered herself. She wrote a book since then and even has written her own scripts such as I am Domestic Violence. She inspired me to look at life with a different view. Her words and her performance made me realize that life is short and you must live it while you can and live it for you.